Confessions of a libra

Softness is the throne

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20.05.25

My love is loud, my love is proud. My love is bold and true. I have often said I love with the ferocity of a thousand suns. I’m not moved by your status. To be in my life you must bring more than physical beauty, more than plain brawn and more than strategy. You must bring your whole self, no matter what that self looks like. You must be willing to explain yourself and where words cannot do you justice, you must be willing to bare yourself. Bare yourself to me in surrender.

Many people will claim to want an honest lover, but what they mean is they want a loyal one. Where I am concerned I need both. You can run from me, but you will never hide. Many men have left my attentions feeling seduced by love but left feeling discarded. That is because I am operating on a different frequency. The kind of frequency that doesn’t allow me to remain in delusion for too long. I love a game as much as the next gal.

I love a bit of erotic power play, both in and out of the bedroom. What I will not have, is games played upon me – as though I was a passive recipient of your affections. As though the well had dried up and you were the last remaining drop of salvation. People get confused and think my romanticism equates to softness. Equates to being desperate. Yet I lean into it because I think love is pure. Underneath the romcom absurdity, the awkwardness, the missteps…beneath that is a current that flows hard and pure.

Astrologically I was moulded to love. I am a Libra sun with a Libra rising. Libra is ruled by Venus the Goddess of love. She rules the beauty in it as well; the aesthetics, the elegance and the grace. My sun, mercury and north node are in the 12th house which rules Pisces. Pisces is an incredible dreamy sign. The romantic poet, accessing the most divine love that exists within the collective unconscious. My venus and mars are in Leo. Venus is romance and business while mars is sex and career. Leo rules the light romance. The flirtations, the ostentatiousness. Leo wants a Hollywood level love story.

Honourable mention goes to my eros placement. I have an Eros in Scorpio. The combination of a Leo Mars and Scorpio Eros means I need sex to be transformative, while also being fun, while also involving power-play, inclusive of soul-bonds and devastating in its overwhelm. Everything about me is built to dream, and to conjure your own dreams. I burn hot and quick in love (Leo) but I am sure of myself. When the romance or the sex is not up to par, I will give lifelines. I always do, it’s the Taurus moon in me that doesn’t want to change. But I will always choose myself where I am not met with self improvement and reverence.

Stop trying to repackage your romanticism to fit a society where it isn’t ‘cool’ to lead with your heart. You never have to explain your romanticism to those that do not understand. Some people are quite content with the ordinary. That want to go to work, come home and eat a frozen dinner with their lover while watching TV. They don’t want to brag about their partner, keep things interesting or evolve with the relationship. It takes all to make a world and I would never yuck your yum. But I speak to the lover inside you. Let yourself bloom and flourish under the knowledge that your romanticism is not a weakness.

Learn yourself. Own yourself. Love yourself. Have the courage to state who you are even in rooms where you are misunderstood. In time you build the compass that allows you to experience less and less of those rooms. In time, those very rooms are so repelled by you, you rarely have to encounter them. May your love lives be abundant and your cravings fulfilled enthusiastically.