Confessions of a libra

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19.07.25

Worship is man’s most basic instinct. If I have it my way, I will reprogram generations of men back to this awareness. Humble yourself before my feminine leadership, and you will transform your own sexual landscape – irrevocably and deliciously. We all deserve to be having sex that satisfies the soul as well as the flesh. Pleasure that sanctifies, that bursts then rebuilds. What men have convinced themselves is that all sex is good sex. That all sex is created equal. The fact that men have signed up to be siphoned by someone like Bonnie Blue, for a crumb of flesh she doesn’t even honour – speaks to a vacancy in how some men view sex. Like it’s a transaction. Another notch on the belt. Why have empty sex, rooted in lack when you could have glorious sex, holy even.

Historically men have been hunters and protectors. Though prior to patriarchy, men’s protection in many societies was sanctioned by women. These early roles are still very much baked into the modern man. There is a need that men have, to feel useful. Providing and protecting is actually something that men genuinely crave, just not in the way the red pill podcast bros would frame it. I’ve often had women balk at me when I make requests of men, instead of contorting myself to run around for them. I recognised quite early that many men love being told what to do. We will jump into the biology and spiritual reasons behind this, but anecdotally I can corroborate.

Capable as I am, one of the things I have worked on doing is allowing the men around me to provide service in some way. If I drop something, I let them pick it up first. If I need something that’s hard to reach, I’ll ask them to help me instead of trying to figure it out myself anyway. The reason this has been an important part of my development is I realised I was operating from a place of hyper-independence. Somewhere along the way, I had felt so disappointed by community and society at large that I just did things because I didn’t feel safe to lean on anyone. Once I had the realisation, I started watching and absorbing information on the feminine principles. Not because I wanted to be a trad wife, but because I have a very strong divine masculine energy within me. What I needed to do was wield my femininity to restore balance.

This is how I carved my soft power to a terrifying level of precision. The way I indulge men is very deliberate. Yes, sometimes I do feed your egos, just not in the ways you expect. I will compliment your body if I feel that you’re insecure about it. I will compliment your mind if all others see is your body. I will ask you to open the jar first, if I try once and it’s a bit too hard for me. I will ask you to help me figure out something I could if I really did the research, but I realise you already know it. These are my little depots into our interpersonal piggy bank. As a result, men are soft with me in return. If I want affection, which I often do – I feel free to ask because we have created rapport and intimacy.

Testosterone is the primary sex hormone in men, which drives men’s vitality. Testosterone fuels men’s ambition, competitiveness and desire to lead. The higher the testosterone in men, the more they are likely to enjoy challenges and rewards. Worship allows you to set a challenge and reward system. Dom/sub dynamics really thrive on reverence. Praise activates the same reward centres that sex and victory do, so incorporating that into powerplay is pouring gasoline over a furnace. Testosterone needs more than the conquest, it needs to be told it’s the fucking best. Otherwise we get aggression or withdrawal.

The problem is, at present with patriarchy and it’s effects – men’s egos have become so big they inadvertently avoid criticism. They sell each other romance tips about capturing them while they are young, or about how women’s orgasms aren’t even real but these are all antithetical to the great sex they want to be known for. Men want to be known as the one who ruined you, who redefined sex for you but aren’t paying attention to your bodily cues. During sex, men open up emotionally and so does their loyal streak. That’s because during intimacy we have both testosterone and oxytocin at play. This means, for those who think the way I write men is a little too poetic – maybe you’ve never made a man feel safe enough to open up. The things men have said to me during or after sex with me is locked in a vault somewhere in my mind for the sheer vulnerability. I never shame it or make a big deal of it. I understand when the impulse over takes you.

I understand when a man takes my hand, lovingly strokes it, holds it up to his face and is worshipful. I have been on the receiving end of that kind of affection and I let men express themselves that way. That’s because I would prefer the raw, to the polished. I will also be worshipful in return, in my dominance or my submission. I can be worshipful in the way I create obstacles to your pleasure, to edge you into surrender. I will always tell you when you’re being a good boy, or a naughty boy. I like being vocal with men. I like to remind you that I’m here, and I am actively participating in my own ruination. You’ll feel it in my words, in my grip, in my bites and in my hip rotations.

Spiritually, the way testosterone works mirrors the solar principle. Esoterically we associate the sun with masculinity. The sun is about outward expression; will, assertiveness, fire and vitality. The sun can also bring aggression. Worshipping a man or his phallus, is essentially a ritual of honouring the sun within him. His will, his ability to penetrate reality with purpose. We can also look at what we call the ‘Divine Masculine’ in spirituality, as a principle. We are talking about masculine energy which at it’s highest form is needs sacred service, structure and direction. The guiding principle is the feminine, she provides the structure in which the masculine wields his rod so to speak. To worship the Divine Masculine in a man, to see and call him forth is to affirm the sacred protector within. The lover, the healer, the boy and the man.

Men were built on every level to thrive on competence and recognition. Worship creates this beautiful feedback loop between lovers. Worship reinforces a man’s worth. Women need a lot of emotional reassurance outside of the bedroom. Men need that just as much in the bedroom if not more so. I’ve often thought many women are too nice to men. The thrill for me in how I engage with men, is keeping them guessing. I set the standards high very early. They know in my presence my expectations are high. In my world it is normal for men to cook for me, pull out chairs, pay for dates, wear their best dress and share their secret fantasies. I will tease a man at will, playing between pumping his ego and putting pin-pricks in it.

Only because I like people with a backbone, people who can laugh at themselves and not take themselves so seriously. Watching men work for my attention, watching them blush when I compliment their outfit or accidentally give them the siren eyes – brings me the sickest pleasure. Worship isn’t about grovelling nor is it about theatrics. It is about stripping yourself bare for the other person. Letting yourself voice your cravings. Letting yourself bow to someone’s beauty and magnetism. It’s about savouring while maximising the moment. It elevates the emotions. One of the secrets to great sex is heightened emotions. The safer the feelings between the parties involved, the more heightened the emotions, which creates warmth and electricity. Every touch makes you feral. Every lick, a sensory flood.

Worship looks like intentionally setting up a space if you already know sex will occur. In ‘The Liturgy of Lungs’ I spoke about preparing some herbal joints, some cheese/deli meat/fruit platters with towels ‘just in case’. That’s an example of a mindset that I have for sex. I don’t wait for anniversaries to add rose petals to the bed and make it a lavish sexual experience. My philosophy is if we can make it better, why don’t we? I also love surprises. I hate stagnancy and I hate being bored. So personally, planning regular bedroom related surprises like new outfits, new positions or a new multisensory experience – is my heroin. I want to be stimulated a lot, I use my eye for art and beauty in everything including sex. Candles, especially scented for those who love scent, are a fantastic way to create easy ambience.

Seeing someone’s skin under candlelight can feel like a spell. Layering music, scent, maybe even liquids and textures. Having sex on a fur coat, or while sucking on a lollipop or even suspended in the air. You can affirm your partner as a form of worship either with words or gestures. If my partner is going down on me and it feels good, I tend to hold their hair or push their heads further into me. I want them to drown in me and I show them this need. Eye contact is a very sexy way to show approval. When you look into your partner’s eyes and allow your eyebrows to draw helplessly together. When you look them in the eye while biting your lip. So sexy. I love making out and reverently caressing up and down a man.

My favourite spots would be the belly, slow nail scratches up and down. I love watching them squirm and shake under my ministrations. I rate the response to back scratches pretty highly too. In fact, I always engage my hands throughout, to remind my partner I see and feel their body. That it is important, that it turns me on and that I will provide the nourishing their skin has been craving. Words are spells and in worship tone and intimacy are the currency. The language needs to feel ritualistic, reverent and evocative.  If they make me feel so good I might come, I tell them just that. I don’t mince my words.

Some of my favourite phrases to raise the emotional temperature are; you’re doing so good for me, more, take me, naughty boy, I’m yours, right there and fuck me. Then we can invoke archetypes as well, that’s a another fun little layer; daddy, king, god, beast, saviour, teacher, wolf and priest. You can use these terms or language that invokes the archetypes i.e. for god (for those that dare), you might say ‘rebuild me in your image‘. Language surrounding how safe your partner makes you feel can be really comforting and erotic in equal measure. Lastly we can look at combining commands with reverence. Examples like; show me why I call you mine, earn your entry with your mouth and I’ll show you what a good boy you are or suck these fingers with that warm mouth that ruins me.

Men often show their love through acts of service by fixing things, providing solutions and showing physical care. Before you even get to the bedroom, learning to reward your partner for these acts is fantastic foreplay before you get to the main act. No matter how small the act is. If you both consciously make smart, thoughtful emotional deposits in your shared emotional well – you are better likely to transcend during sex together. Women have been taught to shrink our magick. That sexual liberation comes with being able to have sex with as many men as we want, or to bend to the man’s sexual will.

Everyone on both sides needs to slow down and smell the roses. Actually decide what’s important in a sexual partner outside of porn. What are your real needs? Which previous partners fulfilled which needs then compile those needs to determine what you should look for in your next sexual partner. Sex without conscious engagement is asking for trauma to unpack later. Sex should always be conscious, and much less shamed. To the men who have read this far, when you find the one worth worshipping, don’t ask if you deserve her magick. Earn it.