Confessions of a libra

The self-important Lion | Credit: Here

14.07.25

There’s nothing more dangerous than a wounded lion, and nothing wounds a lion more than pride. Leo as a star sign is ruled by the Sun, giving Leos a natural effervescence. In an ideal world, the Sun doesn’t beg to the seen. The Sun arrives (by rising at dawn), makes itself an unignorable force, before exiting (at dusk). A Leo in their power should magnetise attention through their natural charm, vitality and brilliance. I have often spoken lovingly about my Leo Venus, however as someone who pays attention to astrology I have met more people with unhealed Leo placements. I have been personally victimised by friends and family with these placements. As such I am going to break down this energy precisely and surgically – in true Virgo Mercury fashion. This is for anyone with the following placements as a point of consideration, especially if you care about your own soul’s evolution; Leo Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars.

An unhealed Leo doesn’t shine to inspire, but to distract. To distract from the trauma they won’t unpack, the unresolved emotional turmoil, their fear and lack of intimacy. They will spin a tale so quick that it blinds you. I have found Leo’s to be some of the most self-righteous, hurtful people in the zodiac. They will hurt you over and over, always justifying – never owning up even with hard evidence presented. Leo suns have a fear of being insignificant. They want to be the one people go to, the one people think of and to be adored just for existing. Every room becomes a stage. Every conversation a performance. They put in more effort into curating their character/persona than on being a good person. Instead of wanting to be the one people come to and stocking up on knowledge, they’d rather just be seen as deserving of it because they exist.

The most insidious part about Leo unhealed behaviour is how well it can be masked under false compliments, false loyalty and theatrical narrative control. While I have often found Gemini’s manipulation skills to be transparent, Leo rules the heart which makes them excellent at emotional manipulation. Even with that friend I had for 16 years, I always pointed out the discrepancies in his stories, his outlook but it didn’t stop me from being shocked at the level of betrayal I had silently endured in the years of our friendship. Apart from the fact that this person was suddenly always there when I was going through things, but generally silent when I was winning. It took me an insane amount of time to notice that pattern. Once I saw it, I couldn’t unsee it.

Leos Suns can be very abusive. I have witnessed it first hand in Astrological field studies, and experienced it myself both romantically and platonically. The ego that comes from the Sun, would be the most ego possibly EVER. The entitlement that comes with Leos is nothing short of devious. Leo men want to seem all gentlemanly, like they admire your femininity – until you try to assert yourself. So many Leo men, no matter what comes out of their mouth are ultimately misogynists. They talk a big game, but believe that they should have the final word. Their opinions, their sexual interests, their finances should all be prioritised over anyone else around them. The most abusive person I have ever dated was a Leo. The abuse was multi-pronged but the message was clear. He wanted to have me under his thumb.

While he was attracted to my sovereignty, he wanted to own it and possess it. He wanted it as an accessory that raises his stock. This isn’t something exclusive to me, I have also witnessed it with Leos or Leo placements I got close to. Unhealed Leos will treat their partners like absolute dogshit. Undermining and making digs to slowly chip at you. The thing to remember with fire signs too is, sometimes they do things because they can get away with them. There is a real lack of integrity that doesn’t align  with me and how I operate. It’s considered a win to them if you make yourself smaller and let them win on anything. And there’s nothing Leos hate more than accountability.

Unhealed Leo Sun and Leo Moon women are the perpetual victims masquerading as Queens. They want to be loved for anything including hardships they have never truly endured. They want to be seen as the most evolved, the most hurt or the wisest in the room. They need to be the centre of the emotional gravity in a relationship platonic or romantic. They will weaponise their charm, their softness, their eroticism and their empathy to dominate. Any women they don’t like, any women who dare to shine (me) they gossip, shade or ghost. Even more insidious if they decide to stay close to you, to try and pinch some of that light. They will stay by you both resenting you and adoring you in equal measure. Don’t take these scraps.

Unhealed Leo women will shame whatever it is that they envy but truly and deeply want to emulate. The way Leo women have avoided me because they can’t stand that I made them feel mediocre… If you weren’t mediocre, you wouldn’t feel it. And you can always do something about it if you care. What hurts the most about Leos both the Suns and Moons is they don’t want to change, they just want you to change your perception. They want to be adored without tax, and without losing anything.

Leo Moons will emotionally neglect you as a power trip. Pretending they are too booked and busy when instead they are just selfish and self-absorbed. It is very typical when talking to a Leo Moon to end up listening to them go on and on about stories of their heyday. These people are praise addicts but try to disguise it. They will be the type to engage you in conversation purely to talk about themselves, but they know how to mask it by asking about you first. Performatively. They will over-share selectively and leave out A LOT of context that might paint them in an accurate light. They keep score of many things. How often you’ve admired them. How well you are doing and they will try to dethrone you or sabotage you. They will use your self esteem against you, if you don’t have a strong sense of self. If you know you don’t, I would just avoid Leo energies entirely unless you want to unpack the most cooked layered abuse you’ve ever experienced.

As someone with great pattern recognition skills and who considers myself smart and formidable even with abusers, I don’t say this kind of thing lightly. A Leo Moon will go around mimicking you, your growth and insight to get praise instead of integrating that insight. Leo energy can be so focused on appearances, when it hits the moon the place of emotions and the subconscious – there is a need to glamour any negative emotions or emotional expression. What it does instead is stops them from growing, while making them feel in control and like they have the emotional high-ground. It’s like a snake eating its own tail. Last thing to note about Leo Moons. They will romanticise themselves to be more emotionally generous than they are while sucking the absolute life from those around them. They are emotionally sucking your teat while wanting to dominate you completely. The delusions of grandeur are Narcissus-level.

I would be extra discerning with anyone who claims to be spiritual with heavy Leo placements, especially if you do not have good discernment. My longest relationships in this life is people with Leo placements (including family) and I think it’s because of my Leo Venus and Mars. When I am around Leos I feel more alive. I love the theatrics and flair but I am repelled by their narcissism. That’s because the Leo energy in me is evolved. Yes, I can remember being young and dramatising my stories to regale the people around me. That is so typical Leo but I grew out of it.

Now I have mastered good storytelling without needing to devolve to making things up to be adored. Yes, I have felt envy when people have been more talented than me or more in the spotlight – but I learnt to transmute it. I realised that sometimes I was envious about something I actually didn’t care to adopt myself. I realised that I could just focus on improving myself incrementally instead of focusing on my own lack. Leos have taught me the difference between devotion and entitlement, so for that I am entirely grateful.

So many Leo placements are liars. As such with every family member or close friend I have excommunicated, once the rose tinted glasses shattered – I have divined and scried all the stories that ever left me with a niggle. One thing about me, I am very Scorpionic in my deduction skills. There is no one who has come and entered my life who has not been scrutinised with X-Ray vision. I will unpack everything about you that I need to, from your childhood to the last version of you I have known. Everything you have ever told me, sits in a folder in my mind. When I love people, I choose to see the best in them because that’s my personal value system.

However, once I smell something unforgivable, I will open that folder. I will scan everything you ever said and make a mental timeline. So if you told me that you had humble beginnings, but then I remember seeing family photos in the album of you on international holidays – that’s the kind of thing my mind will bring up in retrospect. Then I start creating one of those detective cork-boards in my mind with the images and the red-string. Leos have lied to me about; where their money came from, who they slept with, how they lost their virginity, about being assaulted (emotionally, mentally and sexually), about abuse they perpetrated, being the victim when they were the perpetrator, about being too busy, about their wants and goals. Leos will lie about ANYTHING because it soothes them in that moment. It means they don’t have to face the skeletons in their closet. So if you know anyone with a Leo Mercury…make sure you evaluate them by more than the words they present to you.

Leo Risings I find to be annoying. The want to shine is so shallow for some of them. They can’t stand that other people are hot too. In a world with 8.2 billion people, a Leo Rising still thinks they should be the only one people adore. They will see you dressed well and think, ‘who does she think she is dressing like that’. As if they wouldn’t have done it if they had thought of it first. They will curate everything from their wardrobe, to their socials, to their friendships. They can only celebrate you if they get to centre themselves somehow. Maybe they introduced you to a concept but you follow it through. They want the credit, as though they did the actual hard work. They feel unloved when they aren’t the centre of the room. This energy unevolved is just lacks depth.

An unevolved Leo Venus will flirt for sport, and navigate love like it’s a game of numbers. They want maximum adoration, maximum main character in a book vibes. They will fall in love with people who blow smoke up their arse, because it give them that feeling they’ve always craved – that god-like power. The romance must be public, and extravagant for them to feel loved. They value the perception of their romantic life over the health of the romance itself. An unhealed Leo Mars fears being powerless and utilises any underhanded trick to feel that ‘power’. They utilise their physicality and aggression to assert themselves. They utilise the sexual playground as place to exercise dominance and not with a consensual energetic exchange in mind. Sex becomes a place to gain personal power. They throw tantrums then they aren’t obeyed or admired. They think them controlling you is for your own good, a form of intimacy if you will.

Unhealed Leo placements will have you questioning your memory, your own shine and have you overextending to baby a grown human being. Do not let any Leos in your life make you feel less than because they feel inadequate. Do not let them distract you from the inconsistencies in their tales and in their behaviour. Your fire is not a threat, and any suggestion it is by someone with Leonine energy is simply a way to sabotage you so they can take the spotlight. When a healed Leo shines, it speaks for itself. When an unhealed Leo postures, it’s embarrassing and alienating. I refuse to be cast in the play of their making anymore.

Leos have taught me to be hypervigilant about them because they seemingly cannot help themselves. And I know they will wag their tongues, when I let them go or if you do as well. Let them. Let them spin tall tales of your betrayal. That you’re simply up yourself now, and hard to reason with. That you are the narcistic one to their perfect victimhood. Truth is a strong signal flare into the universe. Truth will always serve you, where performance won’t. Unhealed Leo energy won’t kill you in one blow. It’ll bleed you slowly under the weight of your own silenced brilliance. I say no more. Asé.