Confessions of a libra

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22.05.25

Leaning into sensuality allowed me to alchemise my sexual experiences. Sex before I was conscious of my sensuality was nothing in comparison to after. Before I realised there would be a benefit in listening to my body, I made more mistakes with picking people to have sex with. My energy was ungrounded which made me easier to sway. As such, in my early years I might have acquiesced and had sex even when my body wasn’t ready. I wasn’t aware of this connection back then. What I am reporting to you now is my observations in retrospect.

As I more consciously started working on my intuition, I was better able to pick out sexual compatibility energetically. That was one piece of the puzzle. The activities that I did to work on my intuition slowed down time. It naturally led me to playing with slowing down everyday moments. Slow down when I lotion my body, brush some fabric lightly against my skin before putting something on.

I practiced slowing down moments with my partner for impact. I learnt that personally nothing beats a good build-up. Knowing this made me better able to orchestrate or facilitate it. I could relax better too. I’ve always loved food, and I’m naturally a slow eater so I love the idea of savouring my food (Taurus moon). I allowed myself sweet treats in moments I was enjoying being in my body. Once I did that, using food in a sensual context with another person is less strange and performative.

Practising joyful bodily movements alone meant, in true Leo Venus fashion, I could put on a show. It’s something I enjoy doing without shame, and those barriers blasted away once I was attuning to my body. Some bodily movements I enjoy doing alone but would also do if someone was present; slow body rolls when I’m sitting down or on hands and knees, hands travelling down the middle of my body and taking little detours for fun. I like using a featherlight touch to tease. It causes my skin to come alive as though in acknowledgement. Enjoying your own touch can be an experience that deepens in impact and sincerity. Don’t be discouraged by how awkward it feels the first few times.

Scents are powerful. Scents are olfactory nostalgia. You can program and deprogram your mind with scent. You can be turned on, you can be turned off. Learning what scents you like, in your own home with no pressure to please anyone is fantastic. It’s also then great when someone asks you a question like that and you know. Knowing yourself is the highest honour, truly. The results deepen with age, like a robust wine.

Breathwork learnt through meditation or yoga can be an incredibly valuable tool for self pleasure. Every time I am communing with myself, I intentionally slow down my breathing. It heightens sensations in the body by amplifying presence. You are also calming down your nervous system which makes you better able to receive. As women we can really struggle to relax in our bodies. Learn to be your body’s first safe space before you can extend her to others. Breathing intentionally as you wind into your devotional solo time, can be a great way to achieve the things you thought impossible.

Centre your intuitive knowing, let your body be a new friend and you will transform your frequency. You will no longer stand in the same rooms with the people who disappointed you time and time again. The best way to achieve the pleasure you are seeking is to slow down the mind and body. Be curious, be sensuous. Try things once and make it ugly. Try things with yourself first if it lessens the blow of having an audience. Realise that being able to fulfil your own pleasure is a gift. It is always better to give yourself pleasure than to give it to someone who doesn’t see your worth. It’s not worth the headache and the drunk texts. Empower yourself. Sensuality is sovereignty.