Confessions of a libra

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14.05.25

Here is a confession. I’m anti-serial monogamy. Just as a personal rule, I won’t yuck your yum. For me being with people back to back has just left me feeling spiritually icky. Except when I was younger, I wouldn’t have had the verbiage to explain it that the way I can now. Here’s my simple post-breakup guide, if you will. Not because I am better than you, just because I have put a lot of time and thought into these things. So if you’re ready, stay with me now.

First secret is, learn what your astrological moon sign placement is. What star sign is your moon in (mine is Taurus) and bonus points if you can retrieve the house (mine is the 7th house). Learning about your moon sign is a fantastic way to interpret and understand your own behaviours. The moon rules emotion and the subconscious. It will tell you what makes you comfortable, what makes you feel unsafe, from the inside out. This is information you can use at any time of your life but if you are dealing with heartbreak, you need to know the most useful forms of self-comfort. For me, as a Taurus moon I enjoy indulging in food. I feel safe, I feel warm and I feel like I am taking care of my emotional health by consuming food I find to be delectable.

I can only hope to god that you have at least one person in your life that you can lean on. You need to have a safe place whether it’s close family or someone you pay (like therapy). This can help with the emotional processing. You need to be able to look at the situation both objectively and subjectively. Men sometimes don’t understand why a woman would want to belabour an issue by going back over it. Yet, this is a corner stone way for you to process what you’ve been thinking and feeling. When I am healing from a dead relationship I will talk to my best friend about; every dream I have, every doubt, every bit of clarity and she holds space for me because she understands it is part of the process. I support her in the same way when she has something she is dealing with in other areas of your life. Not every friendship is the same so if your friends would not want to talk to you about the same issues over and over, then you have to respect that too.

As a libra, I use aesthetics to enhance my moods and eras. This could be a 12th house element as well. It is not uncommon for me to start a whole new wardrobe after a breakup. I can get so disconnected from someone. Especially once I’ve poured everything into their chalice and found them undeserving. It’s not uncommon for me to ask someone to burn or throw away something if I accidentally left my belongings behind. I want a clean break, so a new wardrobe it is. I’m not talking, spend everything you have. I mean, slow and strategic until I phase out everything that reminds me of that old version of me. She is gone now, rest in peace. So we move on. It’s always great to have hobbies, both in and out of relationships. You need to have something that inspires you to reach for something. You need to get a little competitive about something, even if you are only competing with yourself.

This is helpful so you don’t notice all the alone time you now have. Now you can fill your time with other things that are fulfilling. The sad truth is, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. You can’t make the hard decision of stepping away from a relationship, while also wanting the benefits of being in one. I am so pro-blocking people. If I haven’t blocked you, you’re probably safe. Make sure to engage in old and/or new hobbies. Take yourself out on dates, and you don’t have to make it expensive. This is how you pour into your own cup. Sometimes I’ve found myself so busy a relationship was the last thing on my mind. Literally too, the little flicker of thought before my system shuts down for the evening.

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I love feeling like I have meaning in my life outside of a job. Just because we have to exist in this capitalist hellscape doesn’t mean all my memories should be within the walls of one building. Sometimes, that’s what makes it more painful when you’re single. When you’re in a relationship you can easily self-sabotage and pour all your energy into the next person as a form of escapism from your own. Yet the whole time you do it with a wide grin and twinkling eyes because it hasn’t sunk in that your new ‘purpose’ is unsustainable anyway. You should always be pouring into yourself. Half the time the people you sacrificed part of yourself for were not only ungrateful, they gaslit you on top of it.

To end my post, I’ll say you take it easy and you don’t have to be perfect. You take one day at a time. Engage in a therapist if you can afford one. Use the free or subsidised services available if you live in Australia, I have done it before there is absolutely zero shame. Nothing can rock the system more than having to start again. Than having to feel the heaviness of a heart that once promised and said it was the last time. Focus entirely on what changes you can make, and not where you feel heavy and stagnant. It won’t be easy but it’ll be honest work. It’ll be yours, an offering to the body and soul. To protect yourself above all else. To nurture yourself until you’re ready for the union of your dreams.